Donald Wellman
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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Donald Wellman who was born on March 30, 2006 and passed away on April 05, 2006 . We will remember him forever. 


We have created this to spread Donny's life and message to all that read it.  He is our reason for life.  "There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it." ~Edith Wharton


Donny is our Shining Light.  Please visit his other site at
We are the mirrors that reflect his light.  I hope we reflect it as clearly as it shown down upon us.  We love you baby boy.  We follow your light everyday!


Donny was born March 30, 2006 at 11:32 p.m.  Taken early, mommy and daddy were quite surprised that we met you so soon.  I remember the first sight of you.  The doctor's allowed me to glance at your beauty for 2 seconds before whisking you away to the NICU.  I never fell in love with such passion.  You stole my heart, little one.  Looking back, I remember seeing your dark hair, dark skin, and a face that was the most amazing sight ever.  I believe your eyes were open, too.  The only time I saw both eyes open.  I wonder, my angel, what you felt at the point.  I hope you knew mommy and daddy were with you during it all.

3 hours after you were born, daddy was allowed to go see you.  He came back to my bedside with a polaroid of you and the bravest, most calming look on his face.  Looking back at this, I commend his strength!  Thank you, Darling, for giving me hope!


That was a very long night!  I hardly slept, spent most of my time staring at the slowest moving clock ever!  Finally 8 o'clock rolled around.  It was time to get ready to see you, my baby.  I was overwhelmed at first with all the tubes you were connected to but within seconds all I saw was the most beautiful baby ever born!  All I wanted was to holdyou, my son.  But all I could do was touch your hand and your head.  Did you feel me, my angel?  Did you know mommy and daddy were there with you?  We told you how much we loved you.  Mommy said a prayer over your still body for you to heal.  I was very upset, just finding out that we had to make a decision to either let you go right then or give you a chance with the ECMO machine.  That meant saying goodbye to you as they prepared you for your very first helicopter ride.  By 10:30/11:00 (not even 12 hours old) we were giving our love to you to hold on to until we could meet up with you later.  


At the other hospital, you were hooked to the ECMO machine.  This machine was connected to you with tubes that were surgically attached to your artery in your neck.  It took over the function of your heart and lungs so you could rest and your body could try to improve the development of your tiny lungs.  It improved your stability greatly!  Mommy was stuck at the first hospital until Saturday morning.  I was miserable!  The only thing that helped me keep my sanity was knowing your daddy was there with you all day and night.  He is the best daddy ever.  He loves you more than anything or anyone he's ever loved in his life.    You are daddy's pride and joy!!


On your second day of life, mommy was reunited with you.  I was ecstatic!  I was back with my precious baby again.  I was where I belonged.  The three of us spent our next 5 days caressing, holding, talking, singing, and loving each other with all our hearts.

The best times of mommy's and daddy's lives were experienced with you.  When you moved your toe for the first time as we touched the bottom of your foot.  When you started to move your entire foot (and keep it flexed!).  When you, on Tuesday, grasped mommy's finger so tight, again and again.  I loved to feel you react to my touch and voice.  When you started to wake up on Wednesday-  You moved your legs, arms, tried to grasp a tube laying next to your hand, opened your eye and looked right at me and daddy, and started to turn your head.  You were also trying to suck.  I saw your little chin and tongue moving.  You even moved your shoulders.  You were ready to start moving around, most definitely.  Mommy wasn't shocked, though.  I knew from you being inside of me what an active little guy you were!!  Always kicking, moving around, stretching.  I loved every minute of it, too!

On your sixth day, we received devastating news.  You had to be removed from the ECMO machine that was providing so much help to you.  Because of the blood thinner that has to be given while on ECMO, there was a threat of a vessel in your brain rupturing.  You were born early and so those vessels weren't quite developed.  The chance of that happening was very strong.  It was detected that the little vessels in your brain gave out on Wednesday.  After the ECMO machine was disconnected, you were unable to sustain life.  Your little lungs were just too small.  Your strength was spent.  We tried to give you other options but nothing was helping.  Mommy and daddy saw that you weren't doing well.  We wanted to hold you and give you the chance to feel secure and our love.  Our arms were where you belonged.  We held you, talked to you, kissed you, sang to you, caressed your skin, held your hand.  You held on to life for an amazing 20 minutes after being taken off of all those machines.  You sure had a strong heart.  If only your lungs were as strong.  Your spirit was the strongest of all!  I know because I felt you trying to stay with us.  You fought for breath.  Your lungs couldn't take any in, sadly.  Your passing was peaceful.  You flew to heaven from Mommy's arms.


As quoted by Amy Kuebelbeck in her book Waiting with Gabriel, "Two of the most primal parental instincts are to keep your child alive and to protect your child from unnecessary pain.  Those instincts usually do not collide.  With our baby, they did."  When we saw that the end was near, our precious one, our instinct was to take all discomfort and pain away since we were not able to keep you alive.  In our arms is where you belonged.  As you died, no pain you felt.  Only love.

After your passing, everyone kissed you and said their goodbyes, leaving daddy and I to spend time alone with you.  We both took turns holding you, kissing you some more, talking to you, enjoying the little time we had left with you.  We bathed you and daddy let me have the privilege of rubbing baby lotion all over you.  Together, we put a clean diaper on you.  Then Toni, your wonderful, loving nurse, dressed you, took pictures of you and brought you to us in a private room where we were able to spend a couple more hours with you.  We let everyone hold you.  It was a bittersweet time.  We treasure these moments, though I wish I had more.  Handing your sweet body back to Toni was almost next to impossible.  But I wouldn't have trusted you to anyone else but her.  Daddy and I gave you one last kiss before she left the room.  From the  moment you were conceived, you entered into my heart and there is where you will always be.   

Never will we forget you, our little Donny.  You are our love, our life, our reason for going on.  You will always be in our hearts and in our souls.  We love you, our precious son.


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Tributes and Condolences
13 years I just can't believe it's been 13 years since I held you! Everyday that goes buy still just isn't quite rite without you here my lil hotrod.... Even though you would be a teenager now, your mom brother and sister and myself wish nothing more...  Continue >>
MERRY CHRISTMAS   / Mommy (mommy)
Merry Christmas my Angel!  Mommy misses you so much!  I've cried many tears today due to your absence here but I know you ARE arms just miss feeling you, my eyes miss seeing you.  I miss you my baby!  Santa will be visit...  Continue >>
happy 5th birthday!   / Daddy (father)
Happy 5th birthday my lil hot rod! Yesterday for your birthday we went to the hospital and delivered some gifts to the other little boys and girlsyour sister rachel helped too! We all miss you some much son. Its so hard at times but you always find a...  Continue >>
My baby's 4th Angelversary   / Mommy
My dear sweet baby boyMommy misses you so much. My heart is hurting thinking about what this day held in store for us 4 years ago. Right now things were GREAT. Little did we know that in just a few short hours our lives would change. Mommy remembers ...  Continue >>
You'll always be the first   / Mommy
My dear baby boy...yes, mommy knows you aren't a baby anymore.  You're three years old.  But you know in my heart you'll always be my baby boy!  Mommy misses you.  I know it's been such a long time since I've sat down to write you...  Continue >>
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His legacy
Continuing the path of life  
Hi my angel.  How's the soaring?  Hope you are behaving.  Don't cause too much trouble up there!  Mommy met with a lovely doctor today.  He is going to take care of me and your sibling when mommy is pregnant again.  Daddy and I are trying to give you a brother or sister.  We are ready to give life to another miracle.  I could even be carrying a little one right now but we don't know yet.  We have to wait and see.  If I'm not then we will keep trying.  You are always in my thoughts and deep in my heart.  Send us your blessings and watch over your baby brother/sister.  Make sure that this little one is healthy and safe.  We look forward to getting the chance to see you in this new life, for this next one is so much a part of you.  I love you, my precious sweet baby boy.  Always remember that you are never forgotten.  Love, Mommy
My Mom Is A Survivor  
My mom is a survivor, or so I've heard it said.
But I hear her crying at night when all others are in bed.
I watch her lay awake at night and go to hold her hand.
She doesn't know I'm with her to help her understand.
But, like the sands on the beach that never wash away...
I watch over my surviving mom, who thinks of me each day.
She wears a smile for others...a smile of disguise.
But through Heaven's door, I see tears flowing from her eyes.
My mom tries to cope with death to keep my memory alive.
But anyone who knows her knows it is her way to survive.
As I watch over my surviving mom...through heaven's open door
I try to tell her that angels protect me forever more.
But I know that doesn't help her or ease the burden that she bears.
So if you get a chance, go visit her...and show her that you care.
For no matter what she says, no matter what she feels
My surviving mom has a broken heart that time won't ever heal. ~ Kaye Des'Ormeaux
You're in a better place, I've heard a thousand times
And at least a thousand times I've rejoiced for you
But the reason why I'm broken, the reason why I cry
Is how long must I wait to be with you

I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now

Help me Lord cause I don't understand your ways
The reason why I wonder if I'll ever know
But, even if you showed me, the hurt would be the same
Cause I'm still here so far away from home

I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now

In Christ, there are no goodbyes
And in Christ, there is no end
So I'll hold onto Jesus with all that I have
To see you again
To see you again

And I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
Won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
Won't you give me strength to make it through somehow

I've never been more homesick than now ~ MercyMe
Cuddled In Heaven  
We had so little time to share, too soon, I had to leave.
I know how much you love me, I know how much you grieve.

I know how sharp your pain is, I feel the aching in your hearts.
My life so quickly ended before it barely had a start.

I remember how you held me, and kissed my face and hands, 
You cuddled me so gently: but God had other plans.

I was your perfect angel, from God you knew I came.
Suddenly he called me home again, and now God holds my hand.

I know you'll always miss me, I understand your pain is hard to bear.
Just remember that I'm in heaven and we'll se each other there.

So smile when you think of me and wipe away all of your tears.
I'm cuddled now in heaven by our family members here.

I'm waiting here in heaven, and on the day we meet again
I'll be the first to smile and greet you when God calls you home to Him.~Charlotte Collins
A new path on the journey of life  

This section will now include my journey to another pregnancy.  I feel this is a perfect way to celebrate our son's legacy.  For if it weren't for him, his future brother or sister wouldn't be wanted so much.  We love you, Donny!  We hope that seeing your mommy and daddy excited over making another life is making you happy.  I hope that you bless the next little one in our lives and that you guard your sibling with all you are.

Today I made the first step of many, I'm sure, on the journey to creating another life.  Because of my fibroids, a test needs to be done to determine the size and location.  This will tell us the safety of trying again.  The appointment is next Monday, the 31st.  I hope the doctor sees good things and that our news will be positive.  Both daddy and I are anxious to bring home your baby brother or sister and we haven't even created life yet.  But just knowing he/she will be so much a part of you makes the bonding start now.  We love you, our angel.

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